Be honest with yourself, people say, but what does this actually entail? I believe that to be able to be honest with yourself, you first need to know yourself, deeply and intricately. How many of us can honestly say that we have taken the time to get to really know ourselves at this level?
This leads me to the main part of this post. How can we make realistic expectations and understand our limitations without first getting to know ourselves and second, being honest with ourselves. This level of understanding requires deep exploration of our psyche, in a nutshell, what makes us tick at a deeper level.
Once we have got this far, the next part is to then interpret this and work out how this impacts on what is in and outside of our comfort zone. I wanted to discuss this is I am currently exploring my own limitations and expectations of myself. Which has required taking the time to really get to know myself through asking a lot of questions. These include:
What can I afford to sacrifice with compromising who I am?
What am I truly passionate about?
What do I want from life?
What do I need?
How can I take steps to improve and grow as a person?
What are my 1, 5 and 10 year life goals?
How can I achieve them?
What are my fundamental life values and how can I work towards keeping them?
I’d be really interested to know what other people’s thoughts are on the above questions, and if anyone thinks I have missed any fundamentally important questions from this list. This will really help me with this part of my journey. Thank you for taking the time to read.
I start this post, well over due, with yet another cheesy pop song spoof. However, its appropriateness is unquestionable. I have spent considerable time during the first part of the Summer holidays reflecting on what I would do if I could turn back time. Asking myself, why is my first completed novel still sat on my laptop unfinished? Why have I not done . . . Why didn’t I do . . . What if I had . . . and then it dawns on me. It’s not turning back the time that is the issue, life is never as simple as that. When I really think about the reasons why I haven’t yet done X, Y & Z yet . . . the answer is simple, because I haven’t made it a must-do priority. There are so many things on my list of to-dos that are NOT must do’s and I have Michael Heppell to thank for this realisation.
I have now read ‘Flip It’ and am making my way through ‘How To Be Brilliant’ and feeling like there is something, several things, that are still missing from this ‘magic formula’ of brilliance through ‘Flip-It’ thinking. For me it is the need for more time. I know there is a book, which I am getting to and will save for another post . . . but right now I understand that my distinct ‘lack of time’ is a combination of needing to plan and take appropriate action now!
The time I’ve spent reflecting on what I ‘could, should, would’ have done previously had I had it IS the time to spend, ‘am doing it now’. It is so easy to forget all the time and energy that is spent thinking about not having enough of it and working out how to prioritise and organise so that you can get it. If you just do it, how much extra time would you have?
It is also important to bear in mind that life just throws those little unexpected things at you that have to jump the queue to the top of your must-do list, perhaps displacing other previous ‘must-dos’ in to the ‘to-dos’ and that life doesn’t always go to plan. I believe that a little self-forgiveness and faith that it will all work out in the end is needed to get through these times. So when I reflect on why, five years after starting, I still haven’t published a world best-seller, I must stop the over analysing and start the editing!